I wouldn't date him. I would just enjoy the fact that his as chosen you to be one of his friends. Anyway,good luck!! P.S I thought this site was G-Rated!! Cuase' I saw some posts here that werent!!

I am an expert in this field... I'll share my experience with you. I had a best friend a couple years back. We were friends for a year or so and then one summer we became really really close friends. We would pull allnighters just talking about anything in his basement, really intense like. One night he kissed me suddenly. We kept up a secret but a little weird "relationship" for a couple weeks. I was confused. I loved him as a friend, but there were many things that I wouldn't like in him if he were my boyfriend - his dislike of music, certain annoying personality traits - and my intuition told me it wouldn't work. But he kept pushing and pushing and pushing, and I finally caved in and we made it official. He said that there's no way we could come out for the worse even if we broke up because we were such good friends, so to give it a chance. I reluctantly agreed. I knew it would never really go far right from the beginning, and it turned out for the worst. Even though we had the most nicest face-to-face breakup possible, he was so hurt that he hated me for it. All of my friends at the workplace turned against me for breaking his heart. So my advice is be extremely careful. As much as you might say, "oh, our friendship is stronger than that" etc, it's probably not... if there are things about him that are seriously irking you now, they're not going to stop irking you once you date. On the other hand, I have dated guys I didn't have a crush on prior to dating them, and have grown to love them (case in point my current bf), so there is hope... unless he annoys you in everyday life as it is :P. EDIT: So - I think you need to listen to your intuition. Ask yourself some questions. Imagine that he tried to make a move on you, would you feel downright disgusted, or would you feel curious? Are there any things that you're sure would kill a relationship between you two over time? (For example, I wouldn't really want to be with a guy who was shorter than me, for you it might be something different). Unless you feel like throwing up at the thought of kissing or cuddling with him, I say you might as well give it a try. People can be different in a more intimate setting and they can also grow on you. Just be careful that the relationship isn't doomed in your eyes from the beginning...

Seriously, go for it. My wife and I dated for a while. Then we broke up due to outside interference. About a year later, we recognized our mistake and we've been together now for over 11 years, You don't know unless you try. Serious enough for you now, Dmitri?? Barnes & Neobles http://www.neopets.com/browseshop.phtml?owner=desperately_yours&misc

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Speaking from the other side, pity dates are OK. :P You don't have to look down the road 5 years to go out and have a good time one evening.

I did and he ended up stalking me, took 2 years, 2 moves & a job change to shake him... I won't do it again.

[quote=1434neopets]Bsmith and Nina, thanks for sharing. I will probably give him a date and if something happens, I'll give in for another date. Now, I totally forgot an IMPORTANT aspect that should hinder me from dating him. My best friend used to like this guy and she is that kind of a person who never gets over who she likes. She is very possessive and I'm scared that if I date this guy (even secretly), our friendship would somehow change. So to come to think of it, maybe I'm risking too much on this guy if I date him? So has anyone here dated their best friend's crush or ex? How did that go for you? WOW! Selling: Maps, Neggs, Stamps, Coins, Cards, ETC! http://www.neopets.com/browseshop.phtml?owner=1434sweet#p[/quote] No but my friend did it to me, I held it against the guy though, my friend and I got over it, but I never forgave him :P

I always tell the youth i work with get to know some one as a friend first you will know if its meant to go further after spending time with them and not involving dating and all that comes with dating. This holds true for you too. Sounds like this guy is a great guy to have as a friend but there is nothing to lead you into wanting to be anything more than friends. So you know in your heart that if you dated him out of pity that the friendship doesnt mean anything, as that is totally cruel. If he comes right out and asks you on a "date" then in true friendship tell him with all honesty that you value him and your friendship just the way it is and that taking it further doesnt feel right to you. man i feel like dear abby on this one. good luck... and dont rush it cause when its meant to be you will know