Would You Date Someone Out Of Pity?

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Yeah. I think I'm gonna let it go & move on. It would really be awkward to even bring it up after he comes back from his trip because he might have "forgotten" me already. I guess I'm afraid to look stupid for such a small thing like this. WOW! Selling: Maps, Neggs, Stamps, Coins, Cards, ETC! http://www.neopets.com/browseshop.phtml?owner=1434sweet#p
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I had a similar situation right after HS. I'd let him take you out a time or 2 and give him a chance, but remain completely honest about your feelings. Don't lead him on - it only makes it worse and it's just cruel. My case went on for a few years - he wasn't giving up. He'd get so upset every time I started dating someone new that I finally just had to distance myself from him, which hurt, but it had to be done. Hopefully your situation won't end up that way!
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depends how hot you are no really thouh, as a solution you could go out on a date and just be somewhat uninterested and 'no spark' at least that way he can get the hint and maybe move on, instead of spending another 5years lingering and wanting you hard
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[quote=noob]depends how hot you are no really thouh, as a solution you could go out on a date and just be somewhat uninterested and 'no spark' at least that way he can get the hint and maybe move on, instead of spending another 5years lingering and wanting you hard[/quote] I don't want to go too over myself but I am pretty darn hot. I also don't want to shallow but I have to admit that I'm naturally attracted to guys who are good looking. I have to AT LEAST be physically attracted to the guy to even go to another stage. You know what I mean? The thing is... he is not ugly nor good looking. He is also not my type and so I have more to lose than him. And I think this is 80% why (I know... shallow again) I have decided to decline his offer. HOWEVER, I know that I should go pass what people may think and actually try it out. The problem is I don't know if its my sexual-drive that is helping me to sway to another direction or do I really have real feelings for him? WOW! Selling: Maps, Neggs, Stamps, Coins, Cards, ETC! http://www.neopets.com/browseshop.phtml?owner=1434sweet#p
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I've dated guys out of pity and its horrible. Say you develop feelings for that person, and they find out you didn't like them to start with, oh its just a bad idea.
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You only marry if both of you are comfortable and happy with each others company. If you feel agitated i wouldnt move on with this guy. You can still be good friends with him but be a strong woman and dont tell feelings overpower you
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[quote=1434neopets][quote=noob]depends how hot you are no really thouh, as a solution you could go out on a date and just be somewhat uninterested and 'no spark' at least that way he can get the hint and maybe move on, instead of spending another 5years lingering and wanting you hard[/quote] I don't want to go too over myself but I am pretty darn hot. I also don't want to shallow but I have to admit that I'm naturally attracted to guys who are good looking. I have to AT LEAST be physically attracted to the guy to even go to another stage. You know what I mean? The thing is... he is not ugly nor good looking. He is also not my type and so I have more to lose than him. And I think this is 80% why (I know... shallow again) I have decided to decline his offer. HOWEVER, I know that I should go pass what people may think and actually try it out. The problem is I don't know if its my sexual-drive that is helping me to sway to another direction or do I really have real feelings for him? WOW! Selling: Maps, Neggs, Stamps, Coins, Cards, ETC! http://www.neopets.com/browseshop.phtml?owner=1434sweet#p[/quote] You're asking for advice, yet you don't want other people's advice. Quite the conundrum here. :/ It's good to have confidence in yourself and think you're attractive, but don't base someone on their looks. I read your earliar posts, and you seem upset by the fact that he is/or went away. There's a sign that you might have more then just friendship feelings for him. Try it out, and if it doesn't work, then you two can always be friends. Who knows, you might find out you liked him more, or discover the real guy. You never know someone until you've dated and or moved in with them. D:
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I think you should just give it a try, but try not to mislead him.

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